By: Aris Moreno
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity;
When thoughts arise, we have the power to keep them, or throw them out, or as in this article from pickthebrain.com, turn the reaction around to the positive and see where it takes you, you may be very pleasantly surprised with the silver linings, the rainbows, and the lemonade available when we switch the thought that presents to be looked at.
When we hear the word optimism, the first thing that will probably come to your mind is the phrase “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” or “see the glass half-full rather than half empty”. But if we experience a lot of problems, becoming an optimist is easier said than done. Though it can be challenging to stay optimistic, we need to help ourselves to stay positive so that we can think more clearly and find ways to overcome our trials. But how do we exactly shift our perspective? Consider the following tips:
Re-program your mind.
“I can’t do this.”
“My problems seem unending.”
“It feels like no one loves me.”
And other negative statements that seems to fill your mind and heart each day.
Remember that your worst enemy is no one else but yourself. Each time you find yourself thinking negatively, try to counteract it by filling your mind with positive thoughts. If your problems started to fill your mind, just know that everything will be fine and that each challenge has a corresponding solution. Outweigh your negative thoughts with positive ones.
Use positive affirmations:
Even if you’re not aware of it, a lot of us are familiar with positive affirmations. Here are some that you can use each morning to make your day brighter and more positive:
“Life is giving me everything that’s necessary for my own good.”
“I’m facing this day with a healthy body and positive mind.”
“I see the blessings in the challenges I face.”
“I put more attention on things that are good for me.”
“I choose to be happy today.”
“I endure almost everything.”
It’s more advisable to write these affirmations on a piece of paper and post it near your bed, so that it is the last thing you see before you sleep at night and the first thing you see when you wake up in the morning. You can also create your own affirmations that match your needs. When you do so, remember these two things:
You need to construct it in the present tense, not in the past or future. For example, if you need peace of mind, say “My mind is peaceful,” instead of saying “My mind will find peace and clarity eventually.”
Focus on having a positive tone and avoid negative statements. Instead of saying, “I will not get sick,” say, “I have a healthy body and disposition.” Always remember that whatever you think, whether it’s positive or negative, is what you will attract in your life.
Expose yourself to things that can uplift your heart and mind.
It’s true that there are some events in your life that you can’t control and have no power to change. However, there are also things that you can manipulate like what you watch on TV and what you read on your Facebook News Feed. Avoid TV programs that don’t teach you any valuable lesson or that will only make you feel stressed or angry. Hide posts from friends who constantly hate and complain on Facebook if deleting them from your friends list is not an option. You need positive reinforcements to be successful at positive living. Do everything you can to give yourself that because only you can do so, not your family, friends, and other people you come across with.
Don’t escape from reality.
Becoming an optimist is not an escape route to your problems. This is just one of the ways to cope with challenges, help you think more clearly, and stay calm during situations that doesn’t work in your favor. Just because you’re optimistic doesn’t mean that the problem will be solved on its own. You need to be realistic at the same time. Yes, there are things that you can’t control, but you can control your attitude towards them.
This doesn’t mean that you should explicitly force others to be optimistic. What you should do is simply help others to see the bright side of things. Stay positive and let this attitude affect the people around you. Remember that you can influence others with what you do and not so much with you say.
This is part of the gratitude and appreciation awaking taught by the likes of Dr Wayne Dwyer, Louise Hay and many of that illk. It is also supported by research showing when we feel gratitude and appreciation, acceptance our energy, heart rate and chemistry changes in response. So there is a physical change when we look at the situations we find ourselves in and at times dig deep to see, and feel the silver lining. The deeper we dig to find the feeling of gratitude for what is going on, the faster the changes happens inside and outside of ourselves. So worth the short term discomfort for a long term, powerful gain, go forth and share your positivity with others.
Here are some of the simple ways to become less pessimistic and more optimistic. As you become more proficient at this, you will develop your own techniques and will also be able to help others improve the quality of their lives. I challenge you this week then to reflect and add to your journal how things are for you right now in your life, and see how things really are from the flip side of the view. How could you see the situation in a more positive light? It could be as simple as you have something to eat and not in poverty country, or you have access to..... or could be as profound as I am here to do something, (even if you don’t quite know what that is. An additional challenge, write your feedback and insights into our face book page shadowfinder and share what came up for you.