This story is so powerful and humbling I needed to help get it out. While I know that I couldn't do what this young men did, I certainly admire their ambition, and desire to make a difference. What would you do, if you had to? _
What if, as you sat there reading this post you moved your mind away and turned it towards how amazing your body is. Think for a second, or two, what must go inside that space we call the body. What if, your body was changable, and with the help of the mind, intended work, choices and action you could literally transform it? What if, by making choices, you could be a different you, one that what you would like to be? What if you took that leap of faith that there might be a different way of living and being?
I can hear some of you asking "Where is she going with this, this week?" Well, let me share with you.
Over the past couple of years, and more so the last couple of months, I have made some pretty radical choices which in some ways weren't even mine to ponder over. Oh, i was worried about the kids, the mortgage, the friends and what they might think if I .... I thought of how much of a failure I must be because ....... It turned out that I might just be an ok person after all, and that the kids, the mortgage and friends aren't me and were never about me. That things really are a reflection of the internal, the mirror of our self belief if you will.
Interesting, over the years, I have taken the mirror out of storage, removed its frame and polished it up a bit. I got clearer over time, and the reflection that I saw some times was really grubby. Oh, what my mother would say about my house keeping skill!!! (I still to this day refuse to clean windows as i haven't worked out how to get them streak clean and clear).
I would like to think, after all the effort I have put into choosing to see things differently, clearly, that I see them from a space of truth. I also think that I am even at times not responsible for my thoughts and actions, that there are blemishes in the mirror's glass which can not be easily wiped clean, even with enough elbow grease. Some times we need to shatter our view to start again. I dare say this is what I have been doing.
I have walked away, with trust that those I am physically distancing myself from are made of the strongest material possible - Love. I have evolved my business into some thing that I dreamt might be possible, but never dared to believe. The mirror was really messy at that place and really needed shattering and melting down. I have opened up to the possibility of total acceptance from another person, some thing I haven't really had before.
This all started many years ago when I saw my life was so different to others - in a deep sense, not the house, the car or things, but others felt things differently to me. They felt love and a deep connected with others, some thing that i didn't feel.
Now, I can really hear you asking where this is going!!!!
Over the years since this self discovery, i have had several health scares, one being Cancer, one being what felt like chronic fatigue, huge amount of stress because I felt so out of control of everything. This is just a few of the things that I have come across on my path to now. I don't often let these things out of the bag. I am sharing so you too can see that i am very much like you. You too have had life challenges, which you thought you might not get through, around, under, over, obliterate - ever. There is hope.
There have been a few things that I have concluded through the journey so far.
With all these things coming together, I invite you to consider the following:
I challenge you, and myself. Take a good long look at where you are, where you would rather be in every part of your life. Talk to experts in the areas that need a moderate amount of work and start with self loving and healing. Only when we come from a place of self care and completeness that we set the example of our highest selves to others.
I agree, this week's sharing has been quite personal, and challenging. Challenging is good. As we are seeing in NSW at the moment, the challenge of the fires, will with time and care bring even more beauty to the Mountains. Its just difficult now.
To your love and highest self.
I have been sitting on these thoughts for some time. A well know and respected colleague has put together my thoughts in a much better way.
Some things to keep in mind that while we might like to avoid GMO foods, evolution is doing exactly this all by its self. The farming industry has sped it up, but it is going on all the time. While i don't agree with the notion of developing crops with the intent of foods being resistant to other types of 'treatment', the crops we now choose are not what our ancestors ate all those years ago.
Another thing to keep in mind, that if one was previously eating mainly processed foods, from packets, bottles, take ways, high in fatty meats, etc with little or no fruit, or vegetables - the 'typical ' diet nutritionist scream away from, then starting to eat in the opposite direct that is more fruit, vegetables, whole grains, less processed foods etc, then the body will naturally respond with its own cleaning out process. One that would generally result in less body fat, cleaner bowels, liver and less fat in cells.
I wonder sometimes where and when did things start to change, and what prompted the change. I have a theory, but since i haven't looked at enough of the facts and is only a hypothesis at the moment i can't share. Let me say it does involve money, industry and power.
Likewise i am not convinced that each new 'diet' isn't at times coming from the same spectrum - one of to make a name and fortune on people's vulnerabilities of weight, fear and self inadequacies. The conundrum that comes just from this makes me cautious what i tell my clients. Isn't the 'health industry' messages filled with fear and guilt ridden messages that feeds these emotions encouraging people to feel bad enough about them selves to make changes needed. For how long does this last i would challenge. At about as long as the first 'failure' and the message of inadequacy is reinforced beyond measure, again. Maybe this is way the Governments take a very general stand on food groups such as diary and wheat. They can't be seen as 'taking sides'.
As I mentioned in the last blog, the conversation i had with a client really reinforced the notion of the perfect diet and one that is so different from the current eating trends. This along with the super food ideology that you can't get healthy without eating kale and spinach, along with raw cocoa and goji berries. Can't we just makes these foods ok? It is similar to making super heros much more powerful and stronger than anyone, when really, the super hero is the strength inside of ourselves which when unleashed has the capacity to lift a car off a child, or run a mile in a flash. The Eastern Philosophy encourages us to b
I agree with providing the body with what it needs in mind, body, spirit, but I also believe it is important to be gentle on ourselves in this mixed up fear and guilt ridden culture that we call the 'modern world'!! I think our society is starting to change, to some thing or away from, i am not convinced we actually know yet. I see a lot of people being sheep, which is useful as long as they are being led safety and not blindly to the slaughter yard of yet another illusion.
I call for us to become more real and humble in our lives. Keep things simple, love self and others with respectful passion. I also believe that we have the right to choose our paths, without the guilt from others. We can do this enough for ourselves without others needing to do it for us too.
With all this coming out of my mind, and I hope it makes some sense to others too. I don't have the answers, I am not attempting to sound like I do. I am merely asking people to really take stock of their choices, what is it you (and me) are making, why do we make these choices and is it going to serve us? Are we acting from fear or love? Are we really needing what the public media is feeding us? Can we go back to simple as possible and keep things simple? Has our body systems been stressed beyond quick fix and the super foods and techniques are required to make things better. For how long can we keep 'searching and hoping' for things that are out of our reach?
For those who would like to read the original works of my colleague, and i encourage you to please view it athttp://theconversation.com/caveman-cravings-rating-the-paleo-diet-14995
What on earth am I talking about now? The gravy train? This tends to go with music, or at least some weird story, doesn't it? I suppose it does, but it could also relate to how we view food. Confused? Good! Let me help you unravel my thoughts.
Think about the food you eat, what does it consist of? How much of your trolley is fresh, clean foods that aren't in a packet, bottle, sauce etc. Yes, this includes the wines, beers, ciders and spirits. Over the last couple of decades, with the help of the food industry and the marketing gurus, as a society, we have come to think of food as a source of pleasure, and being a super cook, only if we use bottles, packet seasoning etc. It doesn't help with the various 'diets' telling us that we are only good enough if we loose those extra kilos, and the doctors giving us quick fix pills to ward of the symptoms of discomfort which are only doing their job of saying
"Hey Mr (Mrs, Miss, Ms) get your act together, because this body ain't doing so well and it needs help"
In our learnt, fast pace culture of the modern world, I suggest we have gone way too far to the other side of health. Yes, many have taken up the road back to basics, and this is to be applauded, there are also many who, are still finding their way.
I was having a conversation with a client a few weeks ago, and he was asking for my ideas about a 'get back to basics and avoid acid forming proteins' diet, one that goes full circle to the beginning of the health trend era - the late 60's.
Since the late 60's, an upsurge in 'eating right' took on an ethical tone, and the avoidance of food types really take over. The introduction of Atkins and increase in vegetarianism which, interestingly are the polar opposites seemed to flourish at the same time. Spurred on with the increase awareness of life style diseases, cancers, and general ill health, the idea of quick fixes, starving the body or even total indulgence were and still are the methods of choice. The idea of getting back to basics and eating for health isn't new, it is going around in full circle, like most trends and fashions do. In my opinion, all this has done has increased confusion with in the professional and general population, and my response is pretty much "Lets just keep it simple" . I also will question the need for the fad super foods, which while they are high in anti - oxidants, polyphenols, and fibre etc. They are also high in price, which makes them generally out of reach for the average person on a basic wage feeding a family young and growing teenagers, or, who like my parents are on the pension, and at times struggle to pay the bills let alone pay for super foods.
In my opinion, foods don't need to be trends, fads or 'special'. Every day ingredients can make a health difference. Getting back to the basics of the health message of least processed the better is a standard comment i make. Do we really need to have this packet sauce to go with those veggies when olive oil, herbs, and a dash of balsamic vinegar is not only tastier and cheaper, but also healthier? And what is wrong with making super tasty green salads with what are now considered to be super foods - grated beetroot, rocket, endive and and zucchini spaghetti? These are everyday ingredients, which when prepared differently and a possibly in a different combination increases the health value, but also makes it cheaper to be healthy.
I have a few rules of thumb, so to speak that I adhere to when suggesting things to clients.
Naturally, if you want help with any of all of the above, help is available in a variety of ways.
A dietitian with an interest in mind, body, skill development and empowering people to help themselves. After living a lifetime in the first 40, it is now time take it easier and let things be and help others get their their 'life'.
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