Do you wonder why sometimes you struggle with making the right decisions, or the choices are so conflicting it does your head in. Here is a possible explanation for the confusion that can be created by making decisions under pressure or when feeling vulnerable. This is not written by myself, but worth a read. It may help you to gain insight into yourself.
Some problems can’t be solved by methodical, logical thinking, but rather they require insight to relate things in a non-typical way or see novel ways of using them. When our emotions are in a particular zone (as depicted in green on the diagram), we are better at solving problems requiring creative insight. Read more....
When we utilize “musts” we set up all or nothing scenarios that will generally lead to unhappiness and generate anxiety. Such mental chatter can result from trying to satisfy other people’s expectations and it tends to be the default language of perfectionists. If these terms dominate our internal guidance systems, our fight or flight mode may be almost permanently affixed in the “ON” position.
The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
After years and years of observation and self reflection I came to the realization that the best way to face life’s challenges is to take a good look at yourself, assume responsibility for whatever it is that you are thinking, feeling and living.
If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.~Mary Engelbreit
For example, if you are interacting with negative people and these are people you have to deal with on a regular basis – like a friend, spouse, a family member or someone you work with, you should never allow their negativity to affect you and what’s most important, you should never blame them if it does.
Never give your power away by blaming others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
The moment you do, you become a victim of your circumstances and instead of using your time and energy to overcome life’s challenges, you will get lost in the problems and you will get stuck in a really dark and unhappy place for a very long time.
Today I want to share with you 9 clever ways of dealing with the negativity that comes your way from those you love and care about in a more positive and effective way.
1. OwnershipGo from being a victim, from blaming, judging and criticizing to assuming full responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings. Take a different approach to how you deal with their negativity.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. ~Carl Jung
Don’t say: They are draining my energy;.....For the full article (definitely worth reading)
Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.
* Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
* Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
* Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.
* Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.
* Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
* Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us each together.
* Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
* Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
* Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.
* Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
*Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
* Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
Former CEO of Coca-Cola Company. This was from a speech he gave at the Georgia Tech 172nd Commencement Address on September 6, 1996.
A dietitian with an interest in mind, body, skill development and empowering people to help themselves. After living a lifetime in the first 40, it is now time take it easier and let things be and help others get their their 'life'.
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