Are you actively creating great relationships, jobs with high pays to provide a house, food, holidays, car, schooling etc.? How do we approach these chooses with vibrancy, or with reluctance because these attributes are what are told makes a perfect life. I suggest if we are choosing outcomes, interactions etc to meet the latest fad of what our life 'should' look and feel like then resentment may kick in sooner, rather than later, and this is guaranteed to reduce your vibration very quickly, stressing your mind and body as there is a dis-chord between what we actively choose to do and what we would rather be doing.
Another word for dis-chord is stress. It is the imbalance between coulds, shoulds and want to have and being honest firstly with yourself and then to others as to when choices are out of alignment. It could be as simple as you would rather spend 2 hours relaxing on the weekend, but 'should' be at the game or being active.
I question if there is anything inherently wrong with being happy and working in a lower paying job so you can spend more time at home, or have more quality time with loved ones? Or having a local holiday and not overseas, and with less stress to orgnise, pay and recover from? In the scheme of things if we all were executives and high earning people, who would be making the coffees, looking after the house, the streets and our everyday comfort. Everyone has a place in society, and no one is more important than another in their life, or their roles. One's experiences are no less value as long as they are honestly in alignment with their personal values, beliefs and they are not causing harm.
1/4 of the survey participants stated moderate to severe levels of distress, with the highest reporting group are young Australians 18-35 year olds; 17% Australians reported current stress was having a strong to very strong impact on physical health. Stress and Wellbeing Survey 2014,
I suggest we all take a mental check to our approach our life, the tasks and position we have in the scheme of things. If we can see the silver lining in ll that we do, the blessings of our activities, interactions and choices for the bigger picture, we can be pleasantly surprised at the change in our life. What is really important to you, and what are the emotions you want to feel around the activities you choose?
The gratitude movement supports positive mental health by bringing events and our approach to them into perspective. Seeing the silver linings, the better part of ourselves and others, how we are contributing to others, even if we do not receive obvious recognition. Being OK with who we are and what we are working towards. As outlined in the works by Maslow, this ideal is working towards self actualisation, and what i think the go for it, don't hold back and ignore others attitude that we are seeing on the rise in the arena of wellness and positive psychology.
I suggest you think about this as we come closer to the end of the year, school holidays are approaching, and the generally the life performance expectations are escalating for the coming year is to take stock at where you are, and where you are heading for the coming year. Consider who and what you are listening to, what are you putting into your body, what you are projecting for your future expectations. How you feel about your self and what you are creating. Get clear, get real and start to get yourself in line with that you really choose to be.
A dietitian with an interest in mind, body, skill development and empowering people to help themselves. After living a lifetime in the first 40, it is now time take it easier and let things be and help others get their their 'life'.
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